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Are you in love with your life? Fear can be getting in the way.

~It's time. Time to face the fear. Time to let go.~

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Life can be whatever you want it to be.

Don't hold yourself back by thinking you have to stay in situations or in relationships that are making you miserable.

It's time.

Time to go rogue.

Time to break free.

Time to find the job that excites you.

Time to let go of that relationship that drains you.

Time to face the fear.

Time to do it your way.

Time to be in love with your life.

You were always meant for peace and joy.

You are meant to live a life full of a sense of freedom, inspiration and wonder.

This is your one chance at your one precious human life.

What is needed to be in love with your life?

Sometimes it means creating solid boundaries. Letting people know what you expect, what you will and will not do, where you draw the line.

Sometimes creating a life you love means letting go of people who bring you down, who interfere with your joy and peace.

Sometimes leaving a job that is soul-sucking is exactly what it will take to make movement toward creating a life that feels purposeful and passionate.


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Most of what stands in the way of a life we love is fear.

Fear of the unknown.

Fear of being alone.

Fear of survival.

Fear of failure.

Fear of success.

Fear of being out of favor with the people whose approval and validation we seek.

But this fear keeps us small, keeps us compliant, keeps us silent. Ultimately fear keeps us stuck.

We are meant to be subversive iconoclasts in our own lives. To break the "rules" and to do it our way.

This life is not a "spectators only" event.

Passive observation is not an option.

Take complete and thorough ownership of your life. Your precious human life.

Realize what that means in every hour of every day.


You are choosing this.

Choosing your job, your relationships, your mindset.

It may be hard to hear this but...

Don't feel sorry for yourself.

Don't complain.

Don't seek pity from others.

Know that what we all want is empowerment.

We want this for ourselves.

We want this for each other.

We want to see and hear the stories of people, whether close friends and acquaintances or people we don't even know, who got to the other side. Who made it. Who got out of the soul-sucking job and found something they enjoy. Who finally left the relationship that made them miserable and found someone who loves, appreciates and adores them. We love to hear the stories about people who found their way out of darkness and despair and are now in love with themselves and in love with their lives.


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I have been there.

I have been in the soul-sucking job. I stayed because of financial security. I stayed because I was afraid of going off on my own completely and relying on myself and my business as my main source of income. I stayed because I was afraid. I was afraid of the unknown. Afraid of uncertainty. Afraid of failure. I didn't trust myself. I hadn't developed a solid connection with myself to know my own strength, flexibility, tenacity.

So I stayed. I stayed until it began to take a toll on my body. Walking from the parking lot to the door, my legs felt like lead weight, I got sick every morning. I spent resources and time and energy trying to identify what was was causing my physical symptoms. My body said "no" but I ignored it. Until I could no longer ignore it. Could no longer ignore that stress and unhappiness were causing my body to react.

Looking back, my choice to finally leave was such a bigger moment in my life than I could even realize at the time. I didn't know it at the time, but I was choosing ME. I was declaring to myself and everyone that my body, my heart, my mind, my spirit, my happiness were my priority.

I was saying YES to me. And I began to give my life -my all. No more distractions and heavy feelings of misery weighing me (and my body) down.

In the first year after I left, I created several businesses and continued to dedicate TLC to my existing coaching business. And for the past fifteen years, I have been assisting people with career change and overcoming those same fears I experienced.

I am in love with my life. I do feel I am on the other side. I do what I want every day. I feel free.

There are ups and downs, of course, but overall--freedom.

This is just one person's story. I have been fortunate to see firsthand the inspiring stories of amazing people who I have the honor to partner with who make these major shifts in their lives everyday. Going rogue, facing fears, learning what makes them happy. And going for it! They inspire me!

I know it's possible. It's not luck.

My wish for you is that you be in love with your life, without delay.

Don't hold back.

Do it YOUR way.


Here is some guidance for your journey this week...

Intention: To fall in love with your life.

Reflection: I invite you to take some time this week to reflect on the following. Ask yourself...

  • Am I in love with my life?

  • Which specific areas of my life am I not in love with? (work, relationships with others, relationship with self)

  • What needs to change in those areas to be in love with my life?

  • What do I need to do or say differently to be in love with that area of my life?

  • What do I need to stop doing or saying to be in love with my life?

  • What thoughts, emotions, beliefs are contributing to my not being in love with my life?

  • Which situations am I ready to alter or release so that I am in love with my life?

  • Which relationships am I ready to change or release so that I am in love with my life?

  • In what ways can my relationship with myself change so that I am in love with myself and my life?

  • In what ways can I take complete ownership of falling in love with my life?

Practice: For this week,

  • Notice how often you complain to others about something that is not going well in your life.

  • Practice taking 100% total responsibility and ownership of your life.

  • Practice mindful awareness of your thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and behaviors that may be contributing to you not being in love with your life.

  • Actively resolve to shift your mindset whenever these thoughts, emotions, beliefs arise. (shifting your mindset is about being a radically honest student of yourself and being mindfully aware of the root of your thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and behaviors that contribute to whether you are in love or not in love with yourself or your life)

  • Practice making active changes in all the areas of your life that you are not in love with.


  • I am in love with myself. I am in love with my life.


Has this article helped you in some way? Do you have anything you'd like to share? I’d love to hear below.

Rebecca Cooley

Dear Wonderful Person,

I hope this message helps support you on your path of personal liberation, connection, and peace-filled compassion. Need more guidance on this topic or looking for a coach to partner with you on this part of your journey? Check out my private coaching programs.

Be Free.

Wishing you much peace and joy,


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  • Over 15 years as an Executive Coach and Trainer for leaders in Fortune 100 and Fortune 500 companies, Top-tier Universities, Government, NGOs, Small Businesses helping leaders and their teams achieve superior results

  • Results: Strengthened relationships and communication, Increased confidence and happiness, Reduced stress, Improved quality of life and employee wellness, Enhanced performance, Increased job satisfaction

  • 1500+ hours of formal training and certifications in stress-reduction, mindfulness, and communication strategies

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  • MPA in Managerial Leadership, graduated with honors

  • BA with a concentration in Speech Communication, Magna Cum Laude

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